Midway through our marriage, my wife told me that she does not feel loved, or that at least I am not expressing my love for her. It was, at the very least shocking, but mostly confusing for me. I thought of all the things I have done for her, including the gifts I bought, only to find out that she does not feel loved. That discussion eventually led us to the concept of the five Love Languages. In his book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate, American author Gary Chapman theorizes that people express and experience love through five ways, namely: words of appreciation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch. As it turned out, my wife’s primary love languages at that time were through words and physical touch, both of which were neither my primary nor even secondary, love language. There lies the problem: the love is there, but it is not communicated effectively.